The past few weeks have been difficult on a personal level. I'm not going to go into great detail, but a great light in our life has gone out. And that's all I will say.
The lyric from John Lennon's song, Beautiful Boy, “life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans” is so true and incredibly poignant. For me, perhaps the word “wedding” should be thrown in between the words “other” and “plans.” The career path I've chosen and that I truly love takes me away for many weekends out of the year. While I'm guiding my clients through their wedding days, I miss birthdays, anniversaries and other special events. Like so many people, striking that balance between work and home life can be a challenge.
But during trying times, when our character, will, and patience is tested with this beautiful mess that is life, I know I have Nate and our amazing families to help guide us through. It's amazing the clarity and perspective that can come when we're faced with the harsh realities of life. A few weeks ago Nate and I were belaboring a wedding decision and now, I almost forget what we were conflcted about.
And, once again, this process–our journey to the altar–has humbled me. I've always been a very grateful person and I appreciate the people in my life who I lean on and who make me better and I definitely tell them how important they are to me a lot. But as the days and weeks go by and we get closer to our wedding date, I find myself even more thankful for these people–our people.
Now, don't get me wrong, wedding details, invitations, timelines, etc.–these are my (work) life and are SO important for your wedding day. But the most important thing, for me, is knowing that Nate and I will become our own little family (I'd like to think we already are) on March 14, 2014. You've probably heard the adage at weddings, “years from now you will look back on this day, your wedding day, as the day you loved each other the least,” but I know this will be true of Nate and I.
So as we keep making decisions for our big day, I just keep anticiating the love and joy that we'll feel with everyone that we love–family and friends–in one room on that one day. We're going to try and capture it and keep it with us everyday of our lives.
And as the years go on, I know the people who have helped us on our path, our biggest cheerleaders–our families–will be there in our hearts always and forever. To me, this is the most important part of getting married.