You've heard me talk about a bit about how the reality of wedding planning doesn't always match the vision you may have in your head. Some people love wedding planning (me!) and others struggle with it (me, too!) and some people don't like it or don't have time and they hire me to help (and I love that)! As I've said, whatever your feelings are, they're OK to have. But maybe I need to start taking my own advice…
A week or so ago I was up at the Hall of Springs attending client meetings. Since I was going to be there anyway, I tacked on a meeting at the end of the day for Nate and I for our own Hall of Springs wedding in March. I've been very busy lately, was starting to feel a little run down, and Nate had been away on business for a week–I was so excited to see him! A few minutes before Nate arrived, someone remarked, “So has it sunk in that this is YOUR wedding? Are you taking it all in and enjoying the process?” And then it hit me like a ton of bricks and I started to cry a little. Now, that was not the intent of this comment, but those words really resonated with me. Was I enjoying my own wedding planning process?
I pulled myself together just as Nate arrived and we had a great meeting with Mazzone Hospitality–Nate was (is) so excited! We walked out to the car and he was going on and on about all the food and drink options and the different ways to layout the space and I was kind of like, “OK, I'm hungry. Let's get dinner and go home.” Needless to say, Nate called my bluff and I told him how I had a mini-breakdown and that I didn't feel like a bride…because I've always been a bride.
Let me explain. I'm there every step of the way with my clients. I help them make big decisions about a huge life event that (most) have never made before. I tried to explain to Nate that I WISH I was as excited as he was, but, unfortunately, this isn't my first time at the rodeo (for clarification–this is my first wedding that I will be THE bride).
For me, our meeting that night was one of countless vendor meetings I've attended in my career so it just doesn't feel new and exciting to me. And that's OK. I've been down this road with my clients and I'm so used to being happy and exicted for them that I keep forgetting that this is for me–for us! And it's for real.
A few days went by and I had some more appointments to try on wedding dresses. I was with my mom, sister, future sister-in-law, and some bridesmaids. We headed down to the gorgeous new space that is Angela's Bridal–I had been to Angela's before and found a few contenders. Owner Janet Cooper and her staff listened to what I liked and what I didn't about the dresses I tried on and ordered in a few additional gowns for me to try on. I was looking forward to it, but not overly hopeful.
I tried on a few and they were quickly ruled out. The third one I tried on had a lot of elements that I loved; Janet said I could add various things or take the bottom of one dress that I liked and combine it with a top from another–I was starting to cobble together my gown.
We had been there for about an hour and she said she had one more for me to try on and had been saving this one for last… Oh. My. God. IT WAS AMAZING! The minute she started to fasten me in I knew that this was the gown I was going to be married in. Then we added a veil and some other accessories and all of a sudden I had the moment I was waiting for; my bridal breakthrough. I finally felt like a bride.
And then the champgane and the tears began to flow! I was crying, my Mom and sister were crying, Nate's sister was crying! We were a happy mess! It was perfect. I'm so excited, happy, and relieved that I have found my gown (or “said yes to the dress”–whichever you prefer) and I'm “officially” a bride.
Did you have a bridal breakthrough when you were planning your wedding? Did everything work out from the start or were there some hiccups along the way? Let me know in the comments!